My good friend Bill Dodds has written a powerful book for Widows and Widowers. Monica and he got married in 1974 when they were 21. She died of uterine cancer in 2013 when they were 60. Now he shares some of his experience for others going through the same thing
If I had my way you and I would just sit down and visit. You could tell me some of your story and I could tell you some of mine. You could tell me what’s going on with you now, today, this moment, and I could tell you what it was like for others and me when we were where you are.
One week “out.” Two weeks. A month. Two months. A year. Two years. Not that we fellow widows and widowers have “the answer” but we do have what we tried. What worked for us and what didn’t. How we made it from one week to two. One month to two. One year to two.
We’re no experts except, of course and sad to say, every widow and widower comes to know a lot about losing a dear one and surviving that loss. Not getting over it but learning to live with it as the pain lessens. As our lives move on.
“The grief of widowhood is like a chronic condition. Yes, it does get much easier. Yes, joy and peace of mind—and heart—do return. But that grief can flare up both at expected times and at times when it’s unexpected.”
Here is a downloadable, printable handout for widows and widowers to give to their family, friends, and others: