Here’s the thing. Before Catholic anthropology ever gets around to addressing our sex lives or any other human act, it addresses, far more fundamentally, who we are: creatures made in the image and likeness of God for who Christ died. Yet it is with extreme reluctance that many Catholics are willing to remain with that when it comes to LBGT human beings. For many, the itch to rush on from “Yeah, yeah, dignity of the human person, blah blah” to “YOU KNOW WHAT’S WRONG WITH YOU? I’LL TELL WHAT’S WRONG WITH YOU!” is overwhelming. And those who fail to get with the program in saying that over and over and over again to LGBT people are quickly and vehemently suspect of being The Enemy. One need only look at the Pacific Ocean of contempt the Guardians of Righteousness heap on figures like Fr. James Martin for attempting to serve that population with respect. God forgive me for the many times I have played a role in that crap as well.
Still and all, I think that really living with the reality the LGBT people are made in the image and likeness of God and ones for whom Christ died is essential. If you have ever been treated as somebody who needs to be fixed, modified, corrected, molded, shaped, and reworked by some controller before you are worthy of love, then you can imagine how it feels to be gay and under the Lidless Eye of the Righteous. For some reason, people hate being treated like that. And if they endure it long enough, lots of them walk away from the Faith, under the impression God regards them the same way the Righteous Improvers do. Others despair and commit suicide, as Alana did.
LBGTQ kids need unconditional love and support, especially from other Christians, for their dignity, the sanctity of their lives, and suicide prevention. Love and support from other Christians is seen as love and acceptance from God. Christians rejecting or trying to change who they are is seen as rejection and abuse from God. Jesus and the Gospels were all about love, inclusivity, and defending the marginalized.
I understand that doctrine is part of the Bible and the Catholic Church, but the Catholic Church allows Catholics to theologically place the sanctity of life above all else in life and death cases. Jesus came for the disenfranchised, the ones society rejected. If we claim Christ’s name, we need to follow His command to love the Lord our God with all of our mind, soul, and strength and love our neighbor as ourselves. This would mean loving transgender/gender dysphoric youth unconditionally, using their preferred pronouns and name, and including them, not excluding them. Just doing these things will help reduce the suicide statistics dramatically.
This is why I wear my “free Mom Hugs” rainbow shirt, to save lives and follow the science.